Jul 4, 2020
Tantra sex expert Kendal Williams
Based In Plano Texas
2020
welcome you've got us us is created because it's all about us man we're in it together making it work everybody needs to get strong get rid of distractions so we can go farther jump higher all that kind of crap this is a special show this time it's a little different but I dig it different man one thing I like about normal is I like normal only if you can change it every hour anyway we're here to talk about sex pretty much everybody's sub everybody's favorite subject whether they want to admit it or not but we're not talking about going to the bushes and banging it out here we're talking about a little finesse we're talking about energy we're talking about Tantra I have here the what I consider the main expert around as Kendall Williams hello hello yeah and we just let you say you're better yeah no really I think a lot of people know have heard the name Tantra but don't necessarily know what the hell it is you know saying they just know it's a lot of people of course it's the king it's the lasting longer you know we hear sting talking about lasting three hours and and all that kind of stuff and a Madonna was throwing it around for a while back in the 90s I think you know and hear all this different things and the reality is Tantra is everything yes we're being tantric right now you know as being into the flow and the flow that's that's what Tantra is it's about being in the flow it's about weaving all of life together and having an enjoyable blissful experience no matter what the highs and lows of life are it's kind of like you know if we were surfing in Hawaii let's say on a wave there's no more tantric experience than what surfers do because they're experiencing the wave of life in that moment riding those waves and you know they're going through these different channels of the water and their experience the highs the lows of depths the rush and at the same time they might be just sitting out there and total stillness but there's still the odds the universe around them right and that's Tantra yeah they're like a cool journey yes yeah I've done a lot of journey in my father both you know DMT I like that but also just straight but I actually did talk to her a few times it was pretty off the chain because it gets you to a place with everything else kind of goes away right for me it did and pretty it was pretty pretty deadly I'm gonna share this over here to my facebook page just so you know what I'm doing a little bit so uh you've been into it for a long time right ABB's I mean I've known you for years and I would say that I have been into Tantra if you want to put it like that I always say all my life mm-hmm but it's more than that it's I as a small child I think I got I grew up in a very unique style of life my you know I didn't grow up with a lot of money my parent my dad owned a gold claim so we dredge for gold all summer long I grew up running around stark naked you know playing with rattlesnakes and watching deer and in the river and all that and I was even though I'm the youngest of six there's still I have I didn't grow up with any of my siblings so I grew up as an only child so there was a lot of lack in connection there right and I found the connection through nature found the connection through my imaginary friends and everything and I could see things so I grew up believing that some of the stuff that I was experiencing was just the way everybody experienced it yeah and then I found out when I was a 1415 years old young man came into my life yeah and he started to explain things to me he started to give me labels like wait a second that's not the way this is this is norm this isn't normal and he's just I don't know wait how you're doing this because you don't have any education you have any training on this it's like okay so you know I'm telling him what I see and he's giving me a label and I'm telling what I'm feeling and what I'm experiencing and it's all this energy he's like all right so he'd label it for me we dated for about a year with no sexual activity going on outside of kissing we just kissing and I gazing and I lost my virginity to this guy and you know in teaching me all of this stuff and he's one of those people that can read 600 pages in three days you know and very very highly intelligent so more smart than what most 19 year old boys 19 and a half or something I was 15 so you know they're already breaking rules right but yeah you know and then a year later we finally have sex I lose my virginity you know as it is the sting experience of three hours and depth and connection and full-body orgasm and all this beautiful stuff and Here I am thinking well this is the way it is that's just the way it is because that's my experience that's what you know that's where my evidence was showing up was that's the way it is right I want to didn't really truly understand then was that it was the year of preparatory work that we had done together the bonding the connection the learning to breathe the energy work the soul gazing as Tantra refers to it you know in the depths and the trust the vulnerability the intimacy that we have shared up to that point that made that moment so that that gate opening into orgasm into my sexual life so freaking powerful and abnormal from what the majority of young people experience yeah well the depth of anything is abnormal in that I would you think yeah yeah we live in a surface based world and we think that that's just the way it's supposed to be just keep it right there on the surface it's not what Tantra is about it's about going deep it's about really truly relating yeah I was like I talked about on here a lot about the vibrational frequencies you know connectivity and stuff like that and it's very profound it has everything to do with what you're talking about and a lot of people have never really met that yet the vibrational frequency the resonance that kind of takes them out of their their normalcy or their redundancy whatever you know like I have a thing I created there's actually a Munich e9 right son Munich he writes and I developed a tenth one and I do it for couples and what they do is because the way our life works is like one guy has a job she's got a job and they're wrestling with that and then maybe they don't connect because they're all jacked up right so I teach them to take a hand and put it not even touch but put it there and then describe what they feel generally I could actually feel the peach fuzz with actions I have intention but they also experience all the energy coming absolute partner and and depending on where you're touching you're gonna get different emotional sensations that rise up in your own body because you're actually tapping into that energy is the emotional experience of somebody as well we really become present in ourselves and we're going to be able to experience somebody else at that deep emotional level without touching without even hearing absolutely so much of it is has nothing to do with touch at all you know like in that in the case of this this system they go there they have their hand in one area then they'll keep moving down describe it and I haven't do an eye contact and synchronized breathing and nobody's gotten past the waist you know what I'm saying I have to leave the room no I'm kidding but the point is it shows them how to synchronize right which the experience I have a Tantra is it's pretty much that you're synchronizing and and you're just letting yourself roll through it it's synchronizing it's letting yourself move into the flow the weaving of energies together and it really is about allowing yourself to fully be seen and to witness to see the other at the same level you know just that as this beautiful divine being and so we're just witnessing their truth we're not getting caught up on all of our different criticisms and judgement no prejudices around around other people it's just it's just them being them to human beings to beautiful souls coming together meeting each other and actually just feeling each other at that deep level right yeah that takes you to a whole new space you know what you're saying and I like I said I read a lot of couples especially have a program you know built for couples you know and this comes up this comes up all the time you know yeah they touch me in six months you know as we lost your connection get your connection back and I've actually mentioned Tantra a few times but generally unless I got someone to go to they're not gonna do it because you got to read it and try to figure it out right in and what they do is try to fit it with what they already do mm-hmm it really doesn't he doesn't really fit you know with just a flesh clash no friction based sex then frickin base yes I call that fast food fresh and basic session if you're into the slam bam thank you or not even a thank you yeah that's not and we do that I mean a lot of relationships married or other today are more into just that friction based we really are in a hook-up society yeah it's because we're coming at everything from such a surface level and it's because we've been told that all of our emotions are not okay if we're too happy we're damned if we're too sad we're damned if we're angry about something we're damned we're not we're not okay unless we're like just you know we have to just be muted in so many different ways and we mute ourselves with our partners as well right and then we go well I can't no no I'm not you know I don't want to hear that for me like no oh he's too emotional she's too emotional yeah that's yeah we're emotional people like that's part of who we are this is an emotional experience because that's what's actually you know helping us to define our likes our dislikes and helping us to create our life yeah now the thing is you know like like being emotional emotional isn't isn't a bad thing as long as you use your emotion as indicators as opposed to a place to live yeah you know I'm saying oh yeah so you have to be able to just get comfortable just kind of rolling with the life you know I look at his motion as our GPS system and there you go that's really truly just like if I'm not feeling in alignment then it normally shows up as anger as irritation as sadness you know as anxiety depression something on that line and then I go okay well what have I just recently done or experienced or who do I have in my midst that I'm like pointing you know towards where is this actually coming from oh maybe I'm not in alignment to you not in alignment necessarily to them but in alignment to what my soul what's you know God creator source whatever we want to refer to this all this stuff that we don't see right that we experience though oh that is whatever that is that I'm not actually in alignment to the way it is seeing it and experiencing it versus I'm caught up in my ego so I'm wanting to control this situation or I'm feeling insecure in a way so it's coming up all right so I'm like so I'm experiencing a negative response which is showing up as a negative emotion versus you know if I'm feeling really turned on as I like to say which just means that I'm in the moment I'm happy I'm appreciative I am seeing the blessings in my world in my life then you know if I'm experiencing that and I'm really engaged and present in the moment and happy with it then that means I'm in alignment with my soul I'm an alignment with this this moment and how it's supposed to be going down versus trying to wrap my ego and my human desire to control and dictate things including others you know it's just so I look at it like that and as long as and I used to have that life where I was depressed and angry and bitter and resentful and blaming and not taking responsibility and and also kept my mouth shut and buried all my emotions cuz I didn't want to look crazy I didn't wanna look emotional I didn't well look like I didn't have my [ __ ] together and I didn't look like any of that I wanted I had this right it was all these boxes and I had to break out of the boxes to stop giving a [ __ ] as to what everybody else thought what their judgments opinions and views if I swayed to the way every other person wants me this way I would not I would not be able to be happy and I see a lot of my clients they come into me and that's exactly what they're doing they're swaying all the time trying to find that normal right they're like what's normal what's normal what's normal how do I make that person happy how do I make that happen how what's this acceptable what's that acceptable it's like what's why makes you happy yeah let's go back to you this is a moment of like let's just come back to you and it's okay to feel however you're feeling right now yeah well you know also from my experiences what I do is if you are so worried about I mean you should have an idea about it but so worried about acting a certain way then it makes your vibration just kind of static mm-hmm like it'll kind of to me that's what it feels like to me like this and so the other person feels that totally knocks you off you off your pins there you know so you're not really getting the depth that you could get you know and say yeah and so it's really you know it's really important for to know more about it because it is absolutely a big part of who we are and how much you want to let go of it anyway but anyway that says me anyway you know why would you let go something like that but uh anyone I lost my damn train of thought you know there you go oh yeah well a lot of times religion will mess it up too oh my gosh like they'll go well you know I can't I don't do that cuz I'm a Christian or I'm of this or with that I say you don't think sex has nothing to do with it really well no it's all about spirit Oh baby connect your spirit that way till you know it doesn't have to be you know sage in incense and cross legs you know I'm saying no and but we get caught in that a lot of people get caught in that they get caught in what it's told they're told instead of feeling the way through it yeah we're told to deny the flesh right ignore it and then it's shameful to have you know desires and to want for and a lot of the issues that women have had throughout the course of time you know we can roll back the clock to the turn of the century when all the hysteria was flying around and you know and actually vibrators became a thing because they discovered that hey if a woman has an orgasm she's not as crazy go figure you know and but then it wasn't until the 90s that study was actually done on the clitoris interestingly enough that we have less time studying the clitoris then the Internet has been around that's not that's one of those little crazy sexual facts of science out there but it is you know it's like so we here we figured that out that back in the turn of the century that if women got an orgasm and that they weren't as crazy they were you know better mothers better calmer and they were you know more loving all this kind of stuff was going on also making their men happier too because now they were more turned on and willing to do it more engaged instead of just you know going okay just let's get this over with his sex is for you and my mom told me and that you know just lay down honey spread your legs and think about something else it'll be over soon wow I have heard that so many people yeah nobody told me that right pretend they felt like right so they they had to they had to go into that and then we have all these sexual dysfunctions coming up you know especially at both sexes get it but the feminine definitely has a lot of sexual dysfunctions coming up with like prolapse and you know in that way but also in in the way of individuality mm-hmm I mean they're taught women have been always even when I was a kid taught when they got with a guy that it they had to like melt into him right there wouldn't be an individual right so their vibration is total lagged it's lag you know I've know another word for that and so that's what causes I think causes divorce and stuff like that because pretty soon the vibration he was attracted to doesn't exist anymore right and it not her fault she's just this is what she knows and so I stalk a lot about that to clients yeah and the shame that we put around sex unfortunately that does come a lot from religion society yeah and you know but it is if you think about it essentially open you know secure society both men and women feeling very confident in their sex and who they are sexually in their desires and you know everything about it yeah is a liberated Society that's a society that is also going to start to question other things because we have shut down the sex because of its power right that it brings because it opens us up in so many different ways yeah it does have the vulnerability button but you know what it also does there is the issues we have now I think across the board almost for most people is the idea okay I have to perform so I got to perform I got to do whatever it is makes you scream which is fine but you also have to be able to receive all the other sides screaming so that they are giving up good performance and not really being true about what's going on so they're not speaking they're faking it when both sides are performing and they're not really actually reading each other connecting yeah they're not they're they're just doing friction and as I tell people I'm like you know if you're just into friction based sex like you're gonna get more pleasure from washing your hands or something or doing the dishes because you're actually going to be connecting to the dish more than what you are to your partner right now because you're so busy going oh what does my face look like how loud a mine did I scratch him good enough you know did I did I do this did I do that and he's going did I Drive it home hard enough did I hit that spot that my should I like this you know straight you know stir like a cocktail what if I go hard on this and soft there and everything you know I flipped this position that position I saw that in a porn oh yeah let's do that and there it's all about they're all up here right not actually embodied and with their partner yeah and that's the depth and we run from depth because oh my god now I've got to get real now now I might actually have a motion come up in this now I might actually see a motion come up in you now I might realize that I'm actually stroking you the wrong way or I'm laying here and being you know a pillow princess in this moment and not doing anything but you know you know it's just like coming together and and really experience each other that is there's so much power in it and and recognizing that we all have fantasies we all have desires we have different thing you know like every single if you're with five different people every different for every person's gonna be different there is no cookie cutter - [Music] there's nothing wrong with it there was like there's nothing that I could asked all the time oh I have this king or I think I'm abnormal is this normal is this or no there's no such thing as abnormal in our sex absolutely not it's like there's this I could I had had a family member I overheard and he knew it I overheard him talking about like one have rough sex and spanking the whole works and he saw me cuz I'll Shh cuz he was embarrassed so just sex brother so I told me just sex roll with it enjoy it whatever the hell it takes you know oh you want me to go away funny but that smile it's always been my attitude on it was like just if this is where you were all role no see what you get you know yep so anyway I mean it's it's kind of a like when you do this as a I guess you'd say it was a therapy when you teach people how to do that or a lot of the work that I do I mean everybody goes what the heck is you know sex coaching do you sleep with your clients no I do not sleep with my clients yeah I have my partner I'm happy with my partner I have my own private life I do not sleep with my clients there's not you know like there's not even there's there's no form of sex going on you know at any level now what I do in my clients is a version of talk therapy there's a lot of talk therapy on the front side of stuff I also because of my background because of certain things that I've learned through the last 25 years and just me as a person you know that little little girl Kendall who saw things right and it was experiencing energy and didn't have labels for what she was experiencing well she's learned how to work this into her sex coaching practice and because she's done it with lovers and she's experienced she's experienced dots of different things right so when I dude now today is I have what I refer to as tantric integration sessions which is using acupressure which is using a form of Reiki or quantum touch you know an energetic healing art so I pull in I probably use anywhere from seven to eight different modalities during an integration session am i touching somebody yes am i touching their genitals no I'm not I'm touching acupressure points throughout the whole body from their toes all the way up to their head I'm using energy I'm teaching them breath work in that moment I'm teaching them how to get into their body and allow themselves to feel and a funny thing he's gonna kill me but he's going under the bus no names ever are mentioned with me let your story does get told so I have this beautiful client love him to death and he originally was just so in his head and I you know we did a lot of talk therapy we did a lot of different stuff and then I decided I was like you need to do some integration work and he's like okay what does that mean right so I explained to him you know and he's in shorts and butt topless and we're going through everything and it was one of those things that he had to fight his own body because he was getting so turned on just from the acupressure points and the breathing and tapping into his own body he's trying to figure out how am i he's of course crediting me right and I'm going I just I'm just teaching you to tap into your own turn-on right now yeah that is it I I'm not you know I'm staying here fully dressed you got shorts on I haven't touched you in any sexual fashion yet look in your shorts like you know you know he's feeling shame around Oregon he's feeling shame around what's occurring and trying to control that which then brings him back into his head and takes him out of that energetic you got beautiful energy space so then you know we had some conversations we got through the permissions I was like dude this is like that's normal it's good it's actually a positive sign like allow yourself to be there like that's you're not causing any constriction in this moment to your energy to you being you you're just letting it flow through your through your veins that's good so you're feeling you're experiencing and wow look at this so now he's like really a lot he's been giving himself more and more permission yeah but that's like that is a beautiful example like the shame that just he had and the nervousness and what's she gonna think what's gonna happen is she gonna take this as I do this or I'm gonna do that you know all that kind of stuff like no you know a lot of pressure for men I mean I've never been a woman side not to know anyway so I can't come from that point of view but from a man's point of view to get into a sexual action with a woman and feel that maybe they need to go a certain direction or whatever whatever they're always always tripping on that right or a checkpoint okay am i hitting the right spot kind of stuff you were saying earlier and it totally just jacks it up right you know right but uh but if you can learn how to be in your body and be present at the level like when I was just dissing you know now you're tapping and now imagine when he goes home to his lover and he's experiencing an intimate moment with her he's gonna be more in his body he and when you're more in your body you can also tune more into your partner's body which is what Tantra discusses no it is a beautiful energy engagement between the two where you're actually connecting the circuits between the two people you could say and now you're leaving that together so you're experiencing each other because it's not just the physical you know I've had I've had sex with guys of all different sizes and all different like you know oh I'm the bestest and I'm the best whatever and seriously sometimes it feels like I'm like where are you like I don't throw you yeah I don't feel it's because I know I'll tell my guy I'm like you need to get [ __ ] conscious right now like I need you in your [ __ ] because I'm not feeling you I don't know where the [ __ ] you're at but you're not here with me and I want you here with me like I got in bed with you so could you please come back you know is your physical body ain't doing nothing because you're you're you're emotionally not here you're spiritually not here like come back and the same is true on the other side like when a woman's laying there and she's thinking about doing the dishes or she's thinking about you know the proposal that to do or are the kids gonna wake up or what have you then he's just basically got a blow-up doll going and it's ER there's no engagement yeah let's call it a masturbating with somebody's body yeah and then that causes this massive wound this trauma in the relationship and that occurs for years on end and they wonder why they get to a point where there's no sex happening or somebody cheats or all of a sudden this breakup happens you know or there's all this toxic energy this bitterness this resentment all the fighting and everything like that and it's because the wound of not being present in the intimate moments because that also transfers out like we are a mirror image in all aspects of our life if we're not present in our sex then we're not present someplace else in our life as well guaranteed which is pretty general like we're not present actually in other spaces in that relationship we're not present really at work we're not present in our bodies and what are we doing we're masking left and right we're watching TV shows we're sitting on our phones and we're Oh somebody's facebook status is more important than the relationship right in front of me right right and and getting caught up on whatever you know is going on we get we go into those worlds but that's all a mask for avoiding what's going on in here sure well you know that kind of thinking the thinking of not being in your present in your body or in your near center or whatever that's a big topic among like I mean you're on Saks even or us also with the other parts of life how you interact with other people stuff like this a motivational speaker that I listen to is exhilaration father well he says he goes well you know you have a guy and he's that he's at work and he's thinking about what he should do when he gets home then he's at home he's singing about what he has to do and go to work he's that's why you don't get nothing done you're always traveling do you say and it's true there's so much of us so many of us and it is we were never in the center whenever where we are right you know oh yeah and a lot of times you would think it like sex would bring you who you are but it doesn't know you got to be there first you know a lot of the sex that we have today is basically we're just using our partners as like a prozac bill just like I'm just trying to take the edge off of my stress you're I need to go to sleep so this is a great way to induce those awesome sleep hormones so then you know I dropped get that drop down going and then I'm out yeah but it's not about the connection is not about the love it's not even about the pleasure yeah just doing it yep so you say you did not even to say that you did it's literally just to take the edge off I have coached so many different guys who have come to me and say yeah I masturbate six seven times a day you know like every time you know something happens at work and I get into a stressful situation I gotta take myself to the car to the bathroom and I'm just like you know a couple minutes later like I feel better now I can go back to work now I can get another hour and a half in before I got to go do this again yeah this is like wow you are completely numbing yourself out to your sex to everything you know and your teacher now training your body to accept this limited amount of pleasure and sex has now been become you know like going and smoking a cigarette like a lot of people go smoke a cigarette to reduce their stress you know they get into that or right lung damage but if you look at the you know if you get into Tantra and everything then there's a whole understanding there of like what the loss of those sexual fluids do to men and to to women you know like what we actually have going on at a chemical level sure as well which is a whole nother topic yeah well you know like I was I was doing it I was counseling a couple reading into a couple just the other day and the guy he saw love as her having sex with him mm-hmm she saw love a whole other way right and the sex was just a aspect right he didn't have that in order like in her I was trying to tell him us look you can get to sack sex isn't hard to go to but on your way you have to make your connections he's like huh yeah no that's a look if you were to walk by her stroke her face tell her how great she looks she will carry that around all day mm-hmm you gotta make love to your partner all day long absolutely at court we don't court like yeah and I've been the court courting process when that's over then all of a sudden the courting ends on both sides the flirtation ends on both sides right they don't date anymore yeah you know all of this stuff that we do when we first are learning somebody and then we assume that once were with that person that they're just not gonna change right this is just a person but what we forget is that every single day our partner is a new person because they've gone and they've had these life experiences and they've had these thoughts and these emotions and this stuff occurred during their day and then when we meet back together they've had a different experience than what we've had yeah even if we are in the same house dealing with the same kids and all that stuff we're not the same here and we're not the same here therefore our life experiences are different so we are meeting a new partner every single day so would it be smartest to inquire and engage and get to know that new partner yeah almost as though it's the first date absolutely it's absolutely and it's like I get a lot of the women that come for these reasons they'll say he hasn't touched me in six months or whatever whatever and they'll yeah anyway they will say well you know it's like he don't care about me no more let's hope why do you say that well as he did she treats you good and stuff I think yeah yeah but he's not into me like used to be I saw he loves you still I can read into that well he doesn't doesn't want me anymore maybe I don't look good enough or whatever whatever that's not even the case he doesn't understand your language your language is more intricate than his his s you got Nicky getting a bed you must like him okay with her nice of telling this guy you know she has different different there's a different code here you know so you may need to Pat her on the shoulder and walk away or like a lot of women like to kiss on the forehead or whatever whatever but something very small and walk away as you said it's like courting them all day long yeah so when you actually get into the into the rolling with it you really roll with it just like I told you when I first got here I was telling you about and we had the whole discussion about open relationships in Stephanie yeah yeah Here I am right now but that doesn't mean that an old lover of mine messaged me this morning said good morning gorgeous you know yeah and yeah we're not intimate in the moment right but just him texting me that that is just that like little pop well guess what my current partner also messaged me hey good morning beautiful you know like that so it's like those things coming in it is a feeding of that we're feeding each others were stroking each other's emotional bank accounts in those moments it really is that we're making a deposit in that moment instead of a withdrawal and what ends up happening is that we we live where we tend to make a lot of withdrawals on each other and we forgot we forget to deposit and then trouble hits and then we try to do lump deposits to try to pull ourselves out of you know the red the red that we're in and what we're now not realizing that oh this this red came from five years ten years twenty years whatever that storyline is right and we can't fix it overnight we can't repair it pretty quick though amazingly I mean like a lot of my couples normally work with me anywhere from six months to 18 months and I've taken couples that have been together for 30 years that were going we're done like you know we haven't had sex for the last 15 years she didn't like it before then the kids are grown we're done with this and now they're having you know just beautiful magical moments together but it is restoring that emotional bank account right and the majority of the time it's the man needing to learn to do the right deposits into her bank account because what he assumes as a deposit is actually a withdrawal to her absolutely and when we learn to speak those different languages and at the same time she has to learn like okay I'm like sorry dude you've been making these withdrawals for 20 years so you're gonna have to make some deposits and then we can get her to make a deposit but she's not she's been raping herself for the last 20 years for you and she's kind of you're in debt you're in massive debt and we got to pay off some of this debt first we've got a pay off we've got to start showing up we got to start showing this this this this and if you're not willing to do that then you need to let her go because that's the most loving thing that you can do in this moment yeah because if you're if you're just looking for your bank account to pee you know deposit it into when you've been having you know I'm withdrawing from her right and it's time to like really examine what love means to you yeah most guys wouldn't have that they wouldn't get that figured out no not on their own anyway no I mean my clients are some of the who's who of Dallas and everything and you know I deal with doctors and attorneys and in different political people and everything and in business owners and everything and so they're intelligent very success driven people you know and you would think you know they've got multiple master's degrees and all this different stuff going on highly highly intelligent people but when it comes to this department is something that seems like you should understand that this is a given to take and ebb and a flow that there is you know both sides and that the stuff that you were doing on the front side you need to keep doing it because that's what attracted to two of you together you know and I've had like one couple he used to write her she's they're very strong Christians and he used to write her little verses from the Bible and he would stick them around that were loving verses you know like them song of Solomon's and different things like that or if he knew that she was having a tough day he'd sent her a Bible verse and he write are these beautiful love letters but they were a very strong based in their beliefs and that's why she married him because she thought that she had this guy that was just like totally in alignment to where she was right and she just wanted to make a happy house at home and be the awesome good wife and raise kids and support him and she's fulfilled her peace he let go of that writing right and such a small thing right it's like really but it means the world to her so the work that I started with with him I was like dude let's start writing some notes sticks up stick a note in you know her makeup box text it's popery text you know like that you know and I just started giving him those little pieces and that right there was just massive turning point no mic order her some flowers ya know like you're not learning this week without a delivery to your house he said like I know you travel a lot that doesn't mean that flowers can't come to the door right like dude just do this right here you know and then she's messaging me oh my god make it I got flowers today I found these cute little notes around you know he came up behind me when he got home and he gave me a kiss on the neck and he told me how beautiful I was and he didn't push me for sex that first night so guess what I want to do right exactly right and it's just like oh yeah now I'm turned on to this yeah yeah it's uh it's really seems so Elementary but it's not because they're not taught like that you know like my dad was a gorilla you know so he was about all right you know consuming right you know but those days women were taught that's what it was right you know I'm saying anyway anything like that anymore yeah that's good it is good but I think that one of the biggest things that I see from the whole feminist revolution you can say is yes it's beautiful that women are speaking out more and speaking for their truth and asking for what they want but a lot of women still don't know what they want and they are now they flipped it and they're now damask elating men right at different levels so now we have this whole quandary going on where we have a world of women that are acting like men and men that have pretty much lost their balls and are you know they're man cards and because it's not okay to be a man it's not okay to be confident it's not okay to be sexual it's not okay to look at a woman item guy in a grocery store that's I've been a few years back and I was checking out and this man he looks at me says excuse me ma'am and I was like what and I looked down at myself register you know I liked my smiles like hey yeah what is I can I ask you a question he's like okay is it okay for me to give you a compliment yeah and I was like of course it is you know why wouldn't it be okay for you to give me a compliment oh I've known a couple women compliment sinaner lady jump down my throat they tell me that was a pervert they told us at the time I was like oh my god we'll see any any type of compliment or any type of just in the eyes and smiles a lot of women take the defense to it see I have a problem with that personally because there's times that women will come to I see a lot of women in my work anyway and sometimes man oh my god looks like they were made by Tiffany right mm-hmm really beautiful women and before I get started I go man you gorgeous and then I can get going right because I get past a distraction right and I always go you know I hope you don't mind my saying so because gonna be respectful but then it gets out of my head so I can roll mm-hmm and generally they're pretty cool with it I haven't had any problem other than one woman went home with told her husband that I did that yeah he wasn't happy happy you know so he got me a phone call anyway which is another topic right jealousy that's like you wanted to cause something turbulence in your relationship become jealous of your partner yeah I mean shouldn't you be almost turned on to the fact that other people find your partner attractive oh yeah I find your partner nice and going hey she is going home with me right like I you can look but they're coming home with me yeah that's that should give you pride that you have a partner's taking care of themselves that has that light that energy that is magnetic what they've chosen you so there should not be an insecurity about it but jealousy only shows your own [ __ ] insecurity you chose your intuitively no you're not doing what you're supposed to be doing in the first place you know what it's saying what it's saying basically is if I was you I'd leave me tell because I'm not gonna no I'm not like that and if that's what it comes down to is that I know that I've got insecurities inside of myself that I'm not good enough to hold this relationship so I'm going to point my fingers at you and blame you for you know attracting somebody because we can really control what other people are gonna say about us or or you know winks or gestures alright you know I'm like yeah it's crazy cuz I'm one of those women that I do get guys phone numbers and you know and very easy to talk to men and everything and I look everybody in the eye and smile sure know and so that is perceived as flirty and I am kind of flirty I'll admit it me too but it is like and it's a it's a compliment serious compliment yeah it is and I'm so if you're if jealousy I always tell people I'm like if you're experiencing jealousy you need to stop pointing those fingers at your partner and start looking internally at where you feel that you are not good enough where you're having your own insecurities around yourself because your partner's not doing anything over there right is all your [ __ ] yeah squealing it's cuz it's your own junk I remember my 20s that was with my wife number two and she beautiful gorgeous girl and she was wearing remember the daisy dukes things women used to wear and the halter tops she was deadly anyway blonde blonde hair anyway this guy walks out of the convenience store as she was walking to the car and he was staring out hardcore me run into the ice machine and she was like you know and I didn't get jealous so she's like what the hell's wrong with you how come you ain't jealous you didn't that doesn't that bother you that you run that he was staring at me like that and I was a bit of a knuckle dragger back then I go well you know what if he didn't want to look at you I probably wouldn't want to look at you either you look good to own it it's looked down upon if you actually are confident in yourself if if you speak highly of yourself if you love yourself then oh my god you're you're definitely damn Joris you that's a horrible person right there but at the same time it's like anybody who's not confident in themselves we're attracted to confidence we're attracted to people who are go-getters who know their purpose who know where they're going who have dreams and goals and who are not swayed easily that's a leadership personality and that leadership personality is also gonna Rock other people's boats right so it's gonna cause some turbulence out there can't be a peach to everybody or I guess a taco if I was going to the top no but you know is like that's what we're attracted to but then we also dam that because is like know if you actually are a confidence then that means that you're selfish you're self-centered you don't have empathy or compassion you know you don't care about everybody anybody else it's just you you you you you yeah and that's not true at all a confident person just because you love yourself actually means the truth or the reality is if you love yourself you have more strength and who you are you're less swayed you will have a bigger heart and you're more tolerable to others there's less judgement less criticism because you're in me is meaning everybody with the same limb that you feel for yourself right yeah well I like to say you can't unless you love yourself you can't really love anybody else because right there's always gonna be something like there's always going to be a control factor there of how can I control this situation yeah and there's going to be certain expectations and hands on the relation excessive calm mean confidence definitely is a draw to almost everybody well I would say everybody even a type of controlling type will still be attracted to a woman or a man that has got a lot of confidence now if they're controlling type a lot of times I want to crush that down a little bit but originally that's what they're attracted to right and that's what I tell people when I put them through these coaching things it's like look you want to have eye contact you want to say stuff direct right okay even if you're mad you don't allow it to happen what you do is you take some breaths and you ask a question a direct question because that shows strength and confidence and it doesn't show give me something you understand and anyway so that's kind of how that works yeah confidence is important just like the we all know this guy that likes to say me me me a whole lot you know a lot of people really dog him for that and I don't because he's in a position to where every you know half the freaking populations who wants to kick his ass or hates them for who knows what and isn't that the numbers yeah well and then it's like well you know if you got all that [ __ ] on you you better think you're good otherwise they will crush you yeah you know he's built his whole world by speaking it into play prior to actually completely and win with that confidence well I saw him in a town hall and I'm gonna go political I'm not gonna say the guy's name but I'm like I have to assign him a town hall and this woman says well how do what's your advice on how do you I have an ordinary person achieve the success that you have he said well the first thing to do is quit calling yourself ordinary absolutely you know yeah and there's also a stigma that says if I say I'm the best that means you're not right that's not true either mm-hmm you know I'm the best I can be right so first so far and evolving so we have that we have a thing if I have it if I want it and you can't have it that's not true our scarcity mentality right we believe that there's not enough of anything for everybody to have abundance right and and it's absolutely not true that's why we're mired in fear when I didn't in violence were mired in all this stuff hopefully we're getting past it we're getting past it will be alright have some transition stuff going on yeah we should it's like somebody was saying how come is so painful seven kids here yeah they're never prepared it's always messy it's always edging always beautiful points in it there's always fear in it but at the end of it you are creating a new world a new life yeah so I watched a couple of bursts I have two boys I watched a couple of births the whole time I'm going whoa you knock it will you won't do that more than once it was nice cuz they come out and they looking around it was kind of cute when I'm looking at her going baby you know I mean anyway I wanted to ask though like I said a lot of people have heard the name Tantra but what how does that differ from Karma Sutra you know Kama Sutra you could say is a more elevated and a lot of people go I wanna practice Kama Sutra I'm like do you know anything about energy work chakras or anything like that because Kama Sutra at its Courtney are there all these positions yeah there's tons and tons of positions kama sutra positions I can tell you that wheelbarrows not comfortable but but but the purpose behind kama Sutra is an aligning of the chakras of the energy centers yeah in both people and that connection between the two through the power of sex because we are now creating a complete unit two circuits coming together in creating a complete unit and then we are merging those energy together and there's different positions to achieve different results which is what Kama sutras doing I've heard that and I saw the cover of a book was I know what the hell it was I had an idea was kind of like that so you could say comments are just tantric of course it is but you know drinking water and talking to us tantric - so the definition of tantric then so tantric is just weaving all of life together and really experiencing the Bliss of everything but when you think of like all of our life is together I always refer to apple-pies maybe it's because I'm been in Texas for ten years I don't know but you know Linc who doesn't love American apple pie right right so I think apple pie I'm like what Tantra is is it's about that life is the whole pie it's not just this piece of pie or this piece of pie well you know you don't make an apple pie with just apples there's a lot of other ingredients that go to it if we forget the vanilla in the apple pie then our apple pie is there's gonna it's gonna be off if we forget the cinnamon it's gonna be off if we don't the crest you know with enough butter then it's gonna be off if we use you know this Apple versus this apples gonna be up and everybody's apple pies a little bit different obviously right but what we tend to do is we take these segments of our life right so we have our work we have our sex we have our children we have our part and we have our friends we have our health we have travel we have money all of this stuff right and what we do is it we separate it out into these safe little containers and what we try to do with our apple pie is create a filing system we have all of a sudden this this closet of boxes with files in it and we have apple wedges in each one of them and you know some cinnamon shook in there and we're like well why isn't my apple pie good yeah because you just separated it out and went entre teaches is that everything is woven together there is no way that you are gonna have ultimate happiness success bliss feeling of abundance if you say my sex doesn't matter all that matters is my work life and my family life well your sex is the juices of the apples that make that apple pie work over here too you know with a dry pie man yeah it sucks yeah well I have this technique that I wasn't gonna put it on here right but there's a technique that absolutely works I'm thinking this is car guy Kama Sutra okay like I said I never even wrote a book on that I read a book on none of those way I would say to him to the person I'd say I'd say okay we're now debrief we synchronized breath right and I said now I want you to imagine then I'm putting my hand on the right left side of your cheek okay I said I want you to imagine the heat I want you to imagine the pressure I want you to imagine that I'm connecting to you your body right now and now I'm gonna move tell me where I move and they could absolutely tell you when you move one woman actually thought she saw me at the corner of our eye that etre for what that would be the common suture that's actually I just started class a couple weeks ago and I didn't really just that that's why cuz I teach my tantric integration work in workshops to people and I work them through exercises just like lay out we're one person closes their eyes and the other person is moving or I'll have them hold each other in different positions like just touching a wrist and both parties close our eyes and one party goes to you know like I in this class I tell them go to your happy spot like I want you to feel it taste it breathe it you know all this kind of stuff and they're just imagining it and the other person is just receiving so it's just whatever pictures smells would ever come to them and then at the end you both open up your eyes and the person who was the receiver shares what they experienced and that way I had 14 people in the class and every single one of them was sharing accurately one of them smelled smoke even though the guy who was working with her didn't realize that there was a fire there but he was actually took her to Colorado where they have a great big this great big bonfire at this resort and then somebody else in the class was like oh did you go to this place and he's like yeah he's like well don't you remember the great big fire at the bottom of the ski hill and he's like oh yeah it is there she smelled the smoke right even though he didn't consciously go there he was it's just part of his picture I mean I absolutely I mean like that's we don't understand the energetic connection that we have with each other and the closer we are to somebody and the more we are in relation with them at you know at a close close proximity for a long period of time we are completely interwoven with that person absolutely but you know it's also true of people in the perimeter people that you're not actually even dealing with oh yeah like I've been teaching this thing a long time that you can stand next to but it's somebody it'll change your mood if you let it your breathing changes your it was actually this guy from the quantum physicist came up with it like six months ago and I was like cool I've been telling people that [ __ ] for a long time you know yeah and and it just makes sense doesn't it it just makes sense so if you're talking about sex are you talking about relationships or whatever it is it's all about that it's all about that synchronization yeah do you say that's pretty cool so and I think we'd have a lot less [ __ ] going off actually understood that absolutely you know cuz you know cuz if you don't have that you don't have that synchronization at all ever you're gonna feel alone you're gonna feel probably depressed fearful you know and that's so much of our culture now that's why people are banging right but you know banging out windows and [ __ ] you know I'm saying those people have no clues what I mean they got an idea why they're doing it but it's not really what's going on now you know I'm saying I'm not gonna get all into that nonsense but anyway I keep going with that I keep going you're not even going for the right people you're not even jamming the right people you know anyway whatever but you know comes from that we're we're taught to be that we have no control or we have no ability or whatever no we're taught you pretty much have to do what you're taught to do well you're only gonna get about forty percent of what's necessary from there the rest is all in the juice man and the suppression of everything else causes all the emotional and mental and even physical ailments that we experience absolutely absolutely stay strong yeah keep rolling yeah so alright baby well we're at the end of this game okay so it's been fun no you're cool you're cool so give them the juice on where you from what you how to get a hold of you how do I get a hold of me putting Andale Williams calm and you got there you go that's pretty like teach classes so yeah so I teach classes all around the dallas-fort Worth area well right now we got all of our stuff going on but for the most part on Kendall um there's an event tab so all my events are there I'm on Meetup I'm all over Facebook and Instagram and YouTube and everything really hard to find if somebody goes to one of your classes they might get naked no good that's I mean that's not good my classes a lot of people know I mean like if I was teaching a naked class it would say you're going to get naked at this class and I have yet to teach a naked class I've yet to to host an orangie or to teach a naked class so it's like or to force anybody to do any sexual contact because guess what my class is typically are knowing about sexual contact or about education education they're about energy and if you're with your partner you're with your partner so yeah yeah there's that stigma out there and I go what does sex coach sex therefore mean no hardcore safe space boundaries everything in his education focused I have had people get mad at me because it was education focus and they didn't get turned on enough for educational purposes yeah yeah all right man we're at the end of this and I welcome Kent Kent I'm trippin Kendall really it's been a good I think um in good anyway I'm Robert Cruz says you probably already know you can get me at four six nine five four six eight oh one seven or go to my website Robert Caruso online comm I do damnit intuitive ratings which would be psychic to some people and I do other stuff too we could talk later but uh I do the music he writes that kind of thing anyway the next well I guess we're done here so anyway remember to always be a person of action that inspires others instead of a reactive person that inspires no one have a good day
Robert Caruso Intuitive
469-546-8017
www.RobertCarusoOnline.com
English
Arabic
Chinese (Simplified)
Dutch
French
German
Italian
Portuguese
Russian
Spanish